Each week Saturday rolls around (hooray!) and there I am urging you to “Send it away Saturday”. As 2016 draws to a close, here’s a different sort of post. Sometimes it’s easiest to find out what we don’t need by discovering what we do.
This beautiful mismatched cup and saucer set was a Mother’s Day present for my Mom over 40 years ago. I always loved how pretty and dainty it was. Delicate thin bone china instead of our everyday clunky pottery mugs. Those roses just seemed so sweet. It sat in my parents house forever.
When I went back to England to clear out my Dad’s house, I couldn’t find a way to bring it back to Colorado with me. I so wanted it but I didn’t want to break it. I took a picture of it and told myself that was all I needed. Practiced what I preach. It’s all about the memory not the thing.
And then yesterday a package arrived for me from Manchester. In and of itself that was an emotional event – my Dad died five years ago and that had been the end of packages from Manchester. An incredibly well packaged box full of Styrofoam peanuts and bubble wrap and deep inside, this cup and saucer.
My sister had seen how much I wanted them and saved them from the house before the crew came with the dump trucks. She’d set them aside for me and now incredibly, here they were, sitting on my kitchen table in Colorado.
My Mom died when she was 40. There are so few memories of her, and this fragile teacup seems like the faintest of cords stretching back towards her. The thread is whisper thin, delicate and fragile, but it’s there.
I’ll never declutter this teacup or saucer and when it comes time to evaluate other things, the comparison will be clear. Does this make me smile? Does this touch a chord? Does this mean so much more than the thing itself?
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