What’s Your Clutter Story?

If you grew up in a messy home, you know how awkward things could get. Maybe you were even uncomfortable bringing friends home from school. Our parents did the best they could, but they couldn’t teach us what they didn’t know. I’m writing a book about growing up in a messy house and I’d love to hear your clutter story. 

You don’t have to have lived in a hoarded house to have lived somewhere quite cluttery. Growing up, it felt normal, but how has it affected you now? Are you compulsively neat in reaction or did you flounder without the lived experience of an organized home? 

If you’d be willing to chat with me in an individual (just you and me) Zoom session, I would be beyond grateful. I promise complete anonymity and confidentiality. Please reply to me directly: lucy@joyfulsurroundingsllc.com or (720) 526-2114 (text/call) if you’d be willing to talk with me about what it was like to grow up in a messy house or to have grandparents whose homes were full.

Thank you so much!



  1. I am looking forward to this. We did not have a home but were in apartments and moved a quite a bit so we did not accumulate. My mother did keep things organized while working full time. My father was an alcoholic so I didn’t bring people over for a different reason. My first husband’s parents had clutter issues as do many of my clients. Can’t wait for the book

    1. Thank you for sharing that story, Jonda. I know many of us had similar experiences with that reason for not bringing people over. The book will be a while as I collect stories and see where it goes!

  2. I’m certain this will be fascinating. I grew up in a home that was almost perfectly organized. My mother is masterful in that regard. But my father was definitely chronically disorganized and wanted to keep everything, so his “captures,” as I came to think of them all lived in the basement. He’s been gone almost 4 years and I think my mom will be digging out for eternity. I’ll definitely share this online and with any clients I think might be willing!

    1. Thank you so much, Julie. I hear that story a lot – a packrat gets together with a masterfully organized person and as they say in the movie listings, the hilarity ensues. Except it’s not quite as funny in real life when two people’s innate wishes around stuff are so different.

  3. This is going to be a wonderful book! Some of the best ICD conferences featured speakers that described the type of living scenario that you describe. I always find it fascinating to see how our childhood influences our adult lives. And as you mentioned, with extreme clutter, it can go either way. The adult didn’t learn the skills, so they modeled how they grew up. OR, they responded by learning the skills elsewhere and becoming highly sensitive to even a small amount of clutter.

    1. I’m having so much fun writing, Linda, thanks for your encouragement! I grew up in a messy home and although I figured it out, my heart is always with those who didn’t. We’re all so much more than how our house is.

  4. I look forward to the result, Lucy! I grew up in the opposite, but I can definitely see how living in a messy or hoarding environment could shape your life. Best of luck with the book!

    1. Thank you so much, Seana! I’m so enjoying hearing people’s stories – oftentimes they comment that I’m the only person they’ve talked to about how they grew up. They feel like they were the only one who was embarrassed to have people over when in fact, it’s not an unusual situation to grow up in, we just don’t talk about it.


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